How easy it is to blame others.
If only so and so acted differently then everything in our lives would be working out just the way we want, is such a common way to react to the difficulties we experience on this human path.
I know I think this way all the time.
However, this type of thinking doesn’t have as much benefit to our growth and evolutionary well-being as wondering,
“What alignment in my own being is manifesting this outcome?”
This is a challenging question to ask ourselves.
It usually brings up all types of answers that reflect where we feel inadequate, not enough, or like we aren’t strong enough to change.
However, more and more I see we don’t need to be strong enough to change. Actually, it is the trying to be strong, the trying to hold it all together with the pure will of our thoughts and hardened hearts that prevents change.
The change we so crave is in the weakness. In the vulnerability.
It is in the acknowledgement that we don’t really know why anything is happening the way it is, but we are willing to keep opening to any shifts in alignment that are available to us, in the name of generosity and compassion.
I fight this every time.
I rage.
I say out loud, “I can’t do it. I can’t shift this one. It is too hard. I have always been this way.”
Then I cry, and maybe I even fall to my knees.
I then I remember that I have changed. I have changed so many times and so many dysfunctions that previously brought me so much pain.
And I realize that inevitably whatever little bit of stuckness that is nagging me at that moment will also shift in its own timely manner, if I just make myself available.
Looking at everything as problems coming from the external world makes us powerless. It turns us into complainers who just vent that nothing goes the way we want.
Looking inside and seeing where neurosis has become the norm, seeing where we have hardened and have become scared to be soft, seeing where we have inserted resentment into the corners where there is hurt, is the only way we truly transform.
And once we start to walk this path of vulnerable opening, we see that the our internal world isn’t a box, with a limit on corners, but instead an infinite field with opportunities for transformation spreading much further then our minds can ever imagine.
And we keep going.
But along the way we access tools, make friends, ask for help and have experiences that we never knew could be possible.
And still we just keep going.
If you are looking for some assistance along your own transformation path don’t forget about the courses at The Self Healing Academy or private sessions with moi.
Much love!!!